Am I angry at the person who gave me genital herpes? No. Here’s why:
Truthfully, I don’t remember EVER feeling angry about contracting an STD or even believing it was someone else’s fault.
Shocked, scared, appalled, embarrassed? Definitely! Anger? No.
I made bad choices and put myself at risk – I gambled, per se, and I lost those bets. There will always be things I think I could have handled differently, but the point is, the burden and blame lies on me. It is my fault I have genital herpes and I once had to treat myself for scabies, because I chose to share my body with those people.
In short, I am not angry nor am I hoping to enact revenge on the people of the world as a result of my STD experiences.
Rather, I prefer to tell ya’ll the details and hope this can be a learning experience for someone else – a lesson one person will not have to learn first-hand!
What’s the age-old adage – two wrongs don’t make a right?!?!
Yes. That one.
If you are one of those angry folks, that’s ok too…. Be angry – any emotion is better than indifference – and then do something about it. After you’ve had your fill of anger, reflect.
What makes you angry? Why did this happen? What can you do to stop this from happening to others? What will you do differently next time? Is there a good outlet for your anger – a place like this – you can use to express how you’re feeling and where you can learn how others have dealt with similar feelings?
While I understand each STD circumstance is entirely unique, whenever possible, it is important we take ownership for our actions and do something different next time.
Better yet, I say, talk about it.
Tell people how badly you screwed up or the things you’ve learned while tra-la-la-ing along your life’s path. There’s so much we gain by talking about these things; by admitting we aren’t perfect, we open the door for others to do the same and for positive growth and change as a result of our sharing.
(Does this make you want to tell your story? Contact me – I’d be happy to post for you anonymously or otherwise! Better yet, answer the STD Interview questions – I’ll post your answers anonymously and/or as you see fit….and I’ll even let you pick your feature photo!!) < – she’s so cool!
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Are you still angry about contracting an STD? Are you trying to find an outlet for your frustration? Were you inspired by this post? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!
- Would You Like to Share Your Story?
- Genital Herpes (or any other STD) Won’t Stop You
- STDs and Relationships – Part 1, Part 2, & Part 3
- When Do You Have to Tell Someone You Have an STD?
- Observations from an STD Counselor
- STDs – The New Scarlet Letter
- A Healthy Helping of STD Hater-Aide
- Getting Diagnosed with Genital Herpes